One of the biggest obstacles I face these days is busyness. As a father, partner, working man, podcaster, musician, blogger and lover of the outdoors, I am constantly battling against the constraints of time. Sometimes this really gets me down and I find my self stressing about the fact that I can’t do exactly what I want to do at the very moment I want to do it. But If I allow this feeling to take over and fall victim to its stifling presence, the work I am trying to get done seems to suffer even more because my whole system goes into a state of paralysis. My mind tells me that since I can’t do all the things I want to do right now- then it’s not going to be possible in the future either. I start convincing myself that I have bitten off more than I can chew and start running that familiar old loop of insecurities and self-loathing.
This, I have learned, is one of the biggest traps that we can possibly fall victim to as creative people. So many of us set such immense standards for ourselves and measure our self-worth by our ability to keep up with them. It’s crazy! This kind of system does nothing positive for us in the long run. It only serves to make us feel unworthy and to reinforce the same neurotic tendencies that forced us to set such enormous goals in the first place.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t set goals for ourselves or push at the fuzzy edges of our comfort zones, I’m just saying that we should be careful when measuring our aptitude based solely on the amount of things we get done.
In my experience, the best thing we can do to achieve maximum output while at the same time maintaining a semblance of inner peace, is to work without attachment to the results. We have to become like children at play and apply our fullest effort to realizing our dreams while at the same time surrendering to the ever shifting circumstances of life.
Sometimes we get sick and need to focus on self-care instead of practicing our scales. Sometimes it’s more important to spend the day with the kids instead of worrying about that superficial deadline. If we can allow a little stillness to enter the scene and can accept what is in front of us as another part of the process, then everything we do (or don’t do) just becomes a part of the bigger picture. Nothing isn't connected to the that which we always are...if you know what I mean ;)
By letting go of our need to be in control of every single moment of our lives and instead putting our highest, most activated selves into whatever life brings, we start to see the slivers of existence with a much broader gaze. We start to find the pockets of stillness within the great flurry of activity and learn to play with each moment like another move in the game.